Who Am I?

I’m a therapist, but I’m also a father, partner, artist, writer, musician, and carpenter. These are all parts of who I am — and they all shape how I hold space for others.

My work is grounded in relationship. Not in fixing or analysing, but in meeting someone exactly where they are, with presence, honesty, and care.

What I’ve come to understand is that beneath all the stories we carry — the shame, the grief, the masks we wear to feel acceptable — there is a deep human longing to be met without judgement. To be seen and held, just as we are.

The following is a piece I was invited to write, reflecting on what this work means to me.

"When I’m in the room I realise that all this person wants is to have a relationship with someone where they don’t have to be something other, in order to be accepted, where the mask can come off without feeling the crippling shame of judgement. Sometimes it's enough to just sit in the acceptance that there’s nothing we can do but sit in nothing, and wait, there is no hypothesis, no model, circle or triangle that can take the place of the human experience of loving the person across from me without expectation or judgement, without the preconceived notion of right or wrong that they have held over themselves like a circus mirror, distorting the truth that they are a unique and valuable individual worthy of love. Knowing that for all of the grief, loss and regret that they carry for the choices they have made, or have been made for them, that have brought them to this place, they have been doing the very best that they can with what they have been given. And that for each scar that life has placed on their skin, there was a blade that cut and a hand who wielded."

This is the heart of the work for me: to create a space where you don’t have to perform or push anything away. Just bring yourself — and we’ll meet from there.